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Bullies don’t want to cooperate, they want to control. Bullies don’t want peace, they want power.


 

My book on this topic, Bully, Bullies, Verbal Abuse and Verbal self defense, in the Office, at School or at Home has also received praise from psychologists and educators who welcome its innovative approach. In fact, it was the sole resource Dr. Laura selected to feature on this subject for her millions of radio listeners.

77% of students are bullied at school*

*North Carolina Department of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention Center for the Prevention of School Violence

57% of employees are bullied at   work**

**Harrison Psychological Associates

37% of spouses are bullied by their partner**

***Take Back the Night Domestic Violence Statistics


Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System' If you’re ready to take back control of your life, I can show you how. Sam Horn


Imagine…

  • How children feel when their pleas for help are brushed aside.

  • How hopeless you feel when you report a bully’s behavior to your supervisor or HR and no action is taken. In fact, you’re afraid that as soon as the bully finds out you "tattled;" he or she is going to make your life even more miserable.

  • Spending all that time and money in marriage counseling only to find you're back where you started and your spouse is still controlling and manipulating you.

Now there's an ALTERNATIVE to feeling powerless when someone is bullying you. It's called Take the Bully by the Horns, and it's a proven system for stopping people from running and ruining your life.

Is there someone in your life who is making your life miserable? Does this person:

  • Say cruel things and then shrug it off with, Just kidding?"

  • Pick you apart and point out what you do wrong, never what you do right?

  • Monopolize conversations and insist on having her way?

  • Keep you on edge because he has a Jekyll & Hyde personality - kind one minute, cruel the next – you never who’s going to walk through the door?

  • Blame you for her mistakes or make his failures your fault?

  • Play the long-suffering martyr and try to manipulate you with guilt?

  • Turn on you and get even angrier if you don’t go along with what she wants?

  • Twist your words until you feel you can’t say anything right?

  • Ignore your attempts to be reasonable, fair or logical?

  • Seem incredibly self-centered, demanding, and/or arrogant?

Are you tired of this person running your life and ruining your health? Are you ready to get your self esteem, peace of mind, and life back?


sam horn headshotHi. I'm Sam Horn, author of the critically-acclaimed book Take the Bully by the Horns (St. Martins Press.) If I receive your contact information and, as promised, you'll receive via email my free “Is S/he a Bully? Assessment.” I think you'll find the assessment helpful, but it's just a small start. If you are serious about getting the help you need to prevent this bully from intimidating you or your loved ones, you'll want to keep reading.

 

Take the Bully by the Horns

Audio Learning System

The Take The Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System is a ground-breaking step-by-step program that teaches you to neutralize domineering behavior and adopt assertive behaviors that change the way people treat you. These changes can heal your heartache and prevent unfair/unkind/cruel people from taking advantage of you. You’ll take charge of your relationships instead of feeling frustrated and powerless.


In fact, Dr. Susan Forward (author of Toxic Parents and Toxic In-Laws) said, "Take the Bully by the Horns is loaded with excellent strategies and communication skills to help anyone who is tired of being controlled and emotionally blackmailed by fear, intimidation, or guilt."

One thing I’ve discovered is that most people being bullied don’t deserve it. You didn’t start this battle and you don’t want it. You’re not doing anything to provoke the bully. In fact, you’re probably doing everything you can to lay low and avoid this person.

Believe it or not, avoiding bullies makes matters worse because it makes them feel more powerful. As crazy as it sounds, the more you retreat, the more the bully will attack. Your avoidance is interpreted as weakness – which actually encourages aggression.

Now for some good news — the Take the Bully by the Horns Learning System teaches you real-life skills that DO work. It doesn’t suggest that you "let bullies vent to get it out of their system," or that you “be kind to bullies because they’re going through a hard time” or that you "forgive bullies because they grew up in a dysfunctional family and don’t know any better." I call those well-intended recommendations BADVICE because they DON’T WORK! In fact, they backfire and make things worse.

My Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System dares to tell the truth. The nicer you are to a bully, the meaner he or she will be to you. It’s not fair, but it’s true. With this program, you’ll learn why bullies pick on nice people – why they actually seek out gentle souls who wouldn’t hurt a fly - and how to keep them from targeting you.

But before I get into the details, check here to make sure The Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System is right for YOU.

Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System is designed for you if you’re dealing with someone who:

  • Has broken your trust time and again

  • Ridicules you and pinpoints your faults until you feel you can’t do anything right

  • Insists on controlling all the decisions and gets mad if you dare disagree

  • Has a hair-trigger temper – you “talk on eggshells” so s/he doesn’t get upset

  • Pressures you to give in to what he wants and go along with what he says

  • Does something mean and then blames you, saying you “made” her do it

  • Has to be right and has to have the last word (and hates to be challenged)

  • Doesn’t listen – if you try to talk, she interrupts and talks right over you

  • Keeps you off-balance and afraid - you don’t know what’s coming next

  • Makes passive-aggressive remarks–you feel “slimed” and aren’t sure why

  • Spreading cruel gossip or untrue rumors about you to ruin your reputation

  • Tries to isolate you from friends and family so he can have you all to himself

  • Threatens you – mentally or physically – so you back down out of fear

  • Discourages you from doing things you’re good at or that you enjoy

Text Box: (Please note: This program is NOT appropriate in cases of  physical abuse. If you are dealing with someone who is physically harming you or a loved one, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at        (1-800-799-7233 (SAFE). 

Text Box: (Please note: This program is NOT appropriate in cases of  physical abuse. If you are dealing with someone who is physically harming you or a loved one, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at        (1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).  
Text Box: (Please note: This program is NOT appropriate in cases of  physical abuse. If you are dealing with someone who is physically harming you or a loved one, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at        (1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).  
     Sound familiar?

    If so, then The Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System can be a BREAKTHROUGH for your confidence, self esteem, and sanity.

(Please note:) This program is NOT appropriate in cases of  physical abuse. If you are dealing with someone who is physically harming you or a loved one, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (1-800-799-7233 (SAFE). 

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    As a school teacher said, “If you know one person in your life who tries to make you feel small – get Take the Bully by the Horns. I have been through so many courses about Parenting After Separation- both the General Course and the High Conflict course – that are all about getting along. Well, what if there is no way to get along with a person who wants to control your life but says that everything they do is ‘in the best interest of your child?’ Bull! I have been informed that unless this person hits me(!), his verbal and psychological abuse does not ‘count.’ If Sam Horn came to this city, I would stand in line to get tickets. I am a school teacher and never in my life did I think ‘bullies’ left the playground. Thank you for making it clear that I’m not the one who’s crazy.”

It doesn't matter if the person trying to drive you crazy - or make you believe you’re crazy - is 60 years old or 16. It doesn’t matter if this person is a man or woman, your manager or your mother, big or small. Bullies come in all shapes and sizes.

Bullies don’t have to have to be big brutes with bulging biceps. Bullies can be sweet little ole grannies who try to manipulate you with “poor me” martyr stories and guilt. Bullies can be 8-year old children who create chaos wherever they go. A hyper-critical father-in-law who takes every opportunity to make you look and feel stupid. A colleague who steals your ideas and then lies about it. A neighbor who makes you scared to step outside your house and afraid to go in your own back yard.

That’s why, in this program, I use both the words “he” and “she” when describing inappropriate behavior and what to do about it. I don’t believe bullying is a gender issue. You may be working for a female boss who is just as get-ahead-at-all-costs ruthless as her worst male counterpart. Size doesn’t matter when it comes to bullies. In fact, petite people sometimes have a “Napoleon complex” and compensate for their small stature with over-the-top behavior designed to dominate you and make you feel small so they can feel tall.

What’s awful about bullies – regardless of their age or size – is their ability to turn a perfectly good life, relationship, or job inside out and upside down. You may find yourself unable to sleep at night because you keep replaying in your mind what this person said or did to you that day. In many of my interviews, I’ve been saddened to see how innocent, intelligent, outgoing, otherwise successful people, have come unglued as a result of being targeted by a bully. They simply can’t comprehend that anyone would act this way. They’re totally unprepared for it and don’t have a clue what to do.

What’s worse, if you have reached out for help, you may have been given “badvice”. You may have worked up the courage to confide in someone, only to have that person diminish what you’re going through. You may have been told, “Every marriage has problems. You can’t expect things to be perfect.” You may have been dismissed with “That’s just the way he is. You’ve got to learn to live with it.” You may have been told “What are you doing to bring this into your life?” Someone may have suggested, “Don’t make such a big deal about this. You can’t let her know that she’s getting to you.” Easier said than done.

People in my seminars have told me they reported a co-worker’s behavior to their supervisor only to be brushed off with, "Are you sure you’re not exaggerating? She’s nice to me." What these supervisors don’t realize is that bullies often kiss up to managers while bullying anyone and everyone who is lower in the pecking order.

I’ll always remember the program participant who tearfully confessed that when she told her parents her husband was verbally abusing her, they said stoically, “You took vows. It’s your responsibility to keep your marriage together and make it work.”

Please note: Although this program does offer real-life recommendations for how to deal with verbal/emotional abuse – know that verbal/emotional abuse is legally considered a form of domestic violence in some states, (especially when combined with other forms of behavior such as economic control) and has legal ramifications if it’s happening in the workplace. It’s important to document this person’s behavior by writing down or recording what’s said or done so you have tangible evidence to support your claims.

If you, your loved ones, or co-workers feel at physical risk from this person, please immediately contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at    1 800 799-7233 (SAFE) or the HR department, Owner, or Executive Director of your organization. Please understand that most abuse escalates. Hoping it will stop or “go away” on its own is not realistic. Take measures to ensure the safety of yourself, your loved ones, and your colleagues.

Have you reached out in an effort to get help only to be rebuffed? Have you been shouldering all the emotional pain, stress, and helplessness on your own?

If you’re ready to take back control of your life, I can show you how. I'll walk you through every step of the process. I know these ideas can help you regain your self esteem and a better quality of life. How can I be sure? Because I've helped hundreds of men and women who used to be miserable do just that. Here's just one of those stories:

I was at a book-signing in San Francisco and a mother, father, and 12 year old girl arrived early with a dog-eared, much-underlined copy of Take the Bully by the Horns in their hands. The father said,

I wanted to let you know your book has had a profound impact on my daughter. She’s a great kid but she was being targeted by the "queen bee" at her junior high. She was spreading vicious rumors about our daughter on the internet and around school. In the beginning, we told our daughter to ignore the girl and "take the high road" but things just got worse. Then we read your book together as a family. What a difference! Since our daughter learned exactly what to say and do, the "queen bee" who used to have her in tears every night leaves alone. Our daughter is back to being herself again and looks forward to going to school instead of dreading it. Thank you!

There are many more testimonials like this from people who went from feeling overwhelmed to feeling empowered; including one Amazon.com reviewer who said,

“Take the Bully by the Horns is great for those who have learned how to handle bullies through trial and error because it gives tips you wouldn’t think of and boosts your confidence."

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My book on this topic, Take the Bully by the Horns has also received praise from psychologists and educators who welcome its innovative approach. In fact, it was the sole resource Dr. Laura selected to feature on this subject for her millions of radio listeners.

* Dr. Laura Schlessinger, author of How Can You Do That?! The Abdication of Character, Courage and Conscience, Ten Things Couples Do to Mess Up Their Marriage, Ten Things Men And Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives, and Ten Things Parents Do to Mess Up Their Kids is one of the country’s leading experts on relationships. Millions of people read her books and listen to her popular talk show for her respected advice on how to take responsibility for your happiness (or unhappiness).

* Dave Pelzer, author of the best-selling book “A Child Called It” which chronicled the years of severe abuse he received as a child and his subsequent recovery said, “Take the Bully by the Horns is the perfect guide on how to avoid negative confrontations and face those who intimidate and manipulate you – without sacrificing your integrity.”

More importantly, we’ve received grateful emails from people in all sorts of challenging situations who thanked us for giving them the confidence and clarity to take back control of their life. But there's one story in particular I'd like to share with you...my story.

Unlike other bully experts who approach this topic from an academic, theoretical or clinical perspective, learning how to reclaim your life from a bully is very personal to me because I’ve been there.

The topic of communication has always fascinated me. I studied, researched and even wrote a book about dealing with difficult people titled "Tongue Fu!® How to Deflect, Disarm, and Defuse Any Verbal Conflict" (St. Martin’s Press) which has been sold around the world (China, UK, France, Japan) and printed in 10 different languages.

Some of America’s most recognized relationship experts such as Dr. Susan Jeffers (Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway), Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup for the Soul) and motivational speaker Tony Robbins say that Tongue Fu®! is the perfect way to deal with difficult people – without becoming one yourself . In fact, John Gray (Men are From Mars and Women Are From Venus) said it “puts a new twist on communication."

I’ve presented Tongue Fu!® to more than a quarter million people and for organizations such as Hewlett-Packard, American Society for Association Executives, the U.S. Navy, Army and Air Force, Boeing, the State of Hawaii, Booz-Allen, Four Seasons Resort and the California Governors Conference for Women.

In other words, many people consider me an expert on how to deal with difficult people. In fact, the Chicago Tribune said, my "verbal kung fu techniques for fast-forwarding through frustration help keep inner harmony,” and Executive Book Summaries said Tongue Fu!® is a “gold mine for anyone who deals with the public," and that I’ve “added to the legacy of ideas on dealing with people left by Abraham Lincoln, Benjamin Franklin, and Dale Carnegie."

Then I met someone who didn’t play by the rules. This individual didn’t want a win-win, he only wanted to win. He didn’t want to cooperate, he wanted to control.

I tried all my Tongue Fu!® techniques and things just kept getting worse. I realized that Tongue Fu!® works when you’re dealing with someone who has a conscience. This person didn’t seem to have a conscience. The more reasonable or empathetic I tried to be, the more demanding, insulting, and dominating he became.

I decided to seek professional help and made an appointment with a therapist. After listening to the litany of this individual’s transgressions, she suggested I follow Gandhi’s advice to "be the change you wish to see." In other words, I needed to continue to be kind to this person in the hopes that he’d "see the light” and choose to be kind to me.

Wrong. The more compassionate I tried to be, the more controlling he became.

I didn’t know what to do. Everything I read or heard just made things worse. All my attempts at win-win communication were thrown back in my face. I was at my wit’s end.

I didn’t want to become a bully myself, but I didn’t want to continue to be bullied.

Then I met someone who changed my life.

Ironically, the answer to my prayers came from a school principal who was attending a public seminar I was offering for the Los Angeles Learning Annex. While discussing this conundrum of what to do with bullies who want what they want when they want it and don’t care what they have to do or who they have to hurt to get it – she revealed the secret to dealing with bullies.

This wise woman told the class that, after 22 years as an educator, she had finally learned the best way to deal with bullies. And to my disbelief, her advice was the opposite of everything I’d been told so far.

Since I’d tried everything else, I took her advice - and it worked. I freed myself from that bully and I love my life again. I know from hard-earned experience that no matter how dark things appear right now, you can become a happy and positive person. No matter how bleak things seem, there are better days ahead.

Now I’m sharing the secret with you in the hopes it will transform your life as it did mine.

What’s your situation? Did you use to enjoy your life, job, home, school or neighborhood until a bully started targeting you? Do you find yourself drained of energy? Do you dread being around this person? Do you find yourself tongue-tied and not knowing how to respond when s/he says or does something hurtful? Have you tried everything to “get along” with this person – or to avoid this person – and nothing’s worked? You’re not alone.

Like a drug, bullies rely on putting people down to get a "high." Unfortunately, once they know they can "get to you," they’ll keep coming back for more. It gives them a thrill to push you around. In a perverse way, making you feel bad makes them feel better.

You may be thinking, "Right now, I really don’t care WHY the bully is doing this – I just want to make it stop."

I understand.

That’s why the Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System doesn’t waste time on all the psychological theories explaining why people become bullies and why we should forgive them because it’s not their fault. What I’ve found is that understanding the reasons behind bully behavior doesn’t necessarily stop them from making your life hell. Well-intended platitudes such as "Take the thorn from the lion’s paw and he’ll become your friend" won’t stop bullies from using you for target practice.

In fact, naive recommendations to "become a buddy to the bully" don’t work – they usually make things worse. Attempts to appeal to a bully’s good nature often backfire because bullies don’t want to get along; they want to get on top.

In researching this topic, I found that most seminars and books recommend win-win communication when trying to deal with a bully. I’m here to tell you, that absolutely works with the 90-95% of people who have a conscience and want to cooperate. But that doesn’t work with the other 5-10% of the population who are bullies.

Why? Bullies don’t want to cooperate, they want to control. Bullies don’t want peace, they want power. In an ideal world, you would reach out to a bully, explain how their behavior is bothering you, and the bully would be accountable, apologize and change.

In the real world, that simply doesn’t happen. Remember - bullies don’t have a conscience. They don’t self-examine or self-correct. They don’t care if they’re hurting your feelings or causing you distress. In fact, they LIKE it because it means their attempts to intimidate, control and manipulate you are successful.

The Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System shares what DOES work. And the good news is, you don’t have to sacrifice your integrity or dignity.

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As 4-time Pulitzer-Prize nominee Fawn Germer said, "If you’ve ever felt undermined, demeaned, pushed around, manipulated, or controlled by someone, you need Take the Bully by the Horns. Sam Horn gives you your power back and shows you how to use it."

In this program, I share the solution to being bullied. You’ll learn how to stand up for yourself so bullies leave you alone – at work, at home, at school. As school counselor Scott Ertl says, “Sam Horn’s Take the Bully by the Horns is a must for any teacher, nurse, parent or employee who works with hard-to-work-with people. She’s obviously ‘been there and done that.’ I wish I had this 25 years ago when I was in school. I’m hoping our school system purchases copies for every library."

Now you're probably wondering, "What I want to know is, what exactly can I say or do when this person starts in on me?"

That's EXACTLY what this system teaches you. Let me be more specific.

Here's what you'll learn in;

The Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System:

  1. How to take responsibility for being treated with the respect you deserve

  2. How to stop dwelling on the painful past and how unfair/undeserved this is (this is the secret to no longer feeling hopeless or helpless which keeps you locked in unhealthy situations and abusive relationships)

  3. How to recognize the 10 danger signs of a bully so you can steer clear of them

  4. The one thing to never say to bullies - because it lets them know their tactics are working

  5. 5 weak "body behaviors" that turn you into a target (you might as well wear a sign that says "Come pick on me.")

  6. What to say when someone accuses you of being overly emotional or "too sensitive" (and it’s not "I am NOT too sensitive!")

  7. The secret to saying NO when someone’s pressuring you to say yes

  8. What to do if the bully is your boss – and you can’t afford to get fired

  9. How to stop bullying online – whether it’s obscenity-laced emails or IM gossip

  10. What to do if someone you care about is getting bullied - especially if they deny it and insist “Everything is fine. Really.”

  11. A quiz to determine if you’re a people-pleaser (bullies pick on nice people because they know they won’t “fight back”)

  12. What to do if someone’s ranting, raging, cursing, and calling you names (this is something a Honolulu police officer taught me and it works!)

  13. How to "give as good as you get" so teasers know they can’t get your goat

  14. What to do if you’re suffering from "wimp lash" – how to reverse a habit of going along to get along even when it means agreeing to things you don’t want to do

  15. Why turning the other cheek actually encourages bullies to verbally abuse you

  16. A 7 step process for holding rule-breakers accountable (this includes employees)

  17. 21 questions to help you Choose Your Battles so you know when to speak up and when to shut up (for your own good)

  18. Why being like your cat can keep bullies from bothering you

  19. The phrase that stops blamers and shamers from making everything your fault

  20. How to tell if a person has no conscience – and what to do if you’re dealing with a narcissist personality who has no remorse and thinks only of him/herself

  21. How to continue to believe the best of people and choose to trust (most of) them – instead of letting a traumatic experience with a bully cause you to become cynical, bitter, isolated, or depressed

  22. Why active listening and empathy backfires with bullies

And more .....

You may be thinking, "Why didn’t they teach us this stuff in school? We learn math, science, and history, but we didn’t learn what to do if someone is bullying us."

You’re right; we should have been taught how to deal with mean or manipulative people while we were growing up. The good news is, it's NOT too late to learn how to deal with people who are trying to take advantage of you. Joann would agree. Who's Joann? Listen:

Sam,

I can’t thank you enough for what Take the Bully by the Horns has done for my life! At first, I wasn’t sure much sank in…until I had another encounter with a bully in my life. I referred back to your program to help me get through those tough days. Only to find out WOW! I did just what you said and the bully took off. How wonderful is that. You’re an angel.

Joann (last name withheld upon request)


I’ve heard many miraculous “before and after” stories of people who went from feeling helpless and hopeless to feeling they got their life back -- because they finally learned what to do when someone was verbally abusing them. The bottom line is this: if you're sick and tired of someone making your life miserable – whether that person is your boss, spouse, mother or father (or mother or father-in-law) neighbor, co-worker, VIP client, committee member, or your own child, if you’re willing to learn new ways to communicate with challenging people; and if you're willing to apply what you learn, then Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System can make a huge difference for you.


The Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System is a system that includes:

  • Step-by-step instruction for how to stand up and speak up for yourself when someone is trying to manipulate, intimidate, or control you

  • inspiring examples of people who regained their self esteem, sanity and peace of mind because they stopped letting people "mess" with them

  • specific communication tips on exactly what to do and say when dealing with the 5-10% of the population who don’t want a win-win – they want to win

  • thought-provoking insights to help you understand why bullies target certain people – and how NOT to be one of those people!

  • Dozens of "Why didn’t I think of that?!" responses so the next time a bully says something cruel or mean-spirited, you won’t be tongue-tied and tongue-twisted

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    The Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System

    With Sam Horn

    I want to CAUTION YOU about one thing and be totally upfront. The Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System is NOT a quick fix program. I'm not going to promise that if you order today, bullies will start leaving you alone tomorrow (although some of the responses you’ll learn will motivate a bully to take it somewhere else). This is a 30 day program. You'll see some results right away, but as with any patterned behavior, it takes time to reverse automatic people-pleasing-keep-the-peace-at-any-price responses. It takes time to think on your feet and use one of these assertive responses instead of suffering in silence or meekly turning the other cheek when someone mistreats you. Remember though, what you accept, you teach. If you don’t start doing things differently, you and the people you care about are going to continue to suffer.

    People tell me, and studies show, that it usually takes 30 days to change a habit and acquire new skills. And learning how to deal with bullies who want nothing more than to get their way all the time is definitely a skill. If getting your life back is important enough to you, then commit to these 30 days, put forth the proper effort and I'll show you step-by-step how to transform your situation and get back control of your life. It won’t happen overnight, but the results you’ll get will benefit you for a lifetime.

    This is not just me talking. My approach to dealing with difficult people – without becoming one yourself -- has been featured in the international media including:

    Television

    NBC, ABC, CBS, FOX affiliates (New York, Detroit, Honolulu, Los Angeles, Seattle, Portland, San Francisco, Washington DC, Boston, Denver, Minneapolis )To Tell the Truth

    Magazine, Newspapers, and Journals

    Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, Readers Digest, Library Journal, Investors Business Daily, Family Circle, SHAPE, Mens Health, Dallas Morning News, Cosmopolitan, Seattle Times, Publishers Weekly, Foreign Service Journal

    Radio

    WGN (Chicago and national)

    Bloomberg Report (Washington DC and national)

    CBS Radio News (national)

    Dr. Laura (California and national)

    In addition to media attention, my approach to dealing with challenging individuals has been praised by Jeffrey J. Fox, (author of How to Become a Great Boss) who says, “Everyone has a bully in his life or will have one. Take the Bully by the Horns shows you how to deal." The author of How to Talk to Anybody about Anything, Leil Lowndes, says, "Take the Bully by the Horns is full of terrific suggestions on exactly what to do the next time someone takes advantage of you."

    But the most important endorsements are from people like you whose lives have been improved because they ordered the program. Here's a story from a recent program participant:

    Sam,

    How could I ever thank you enough? Your program has dramatically changed my life for the better. I used to be terrified of confrontation. I would give in even when I knew I was right because it seemed easier but over time I found myself and my good nature being taken advantage of. Now I’ve learned to stand up for myself and the bullies who used to run my life seem to have disappeared. Thank you!

    Andrea (last name withheld on request)


    Are you ready to stop letting this person rob you of your dreams, peace of mind, health, and sanity? Are you ready to once again wake up in the morning and look forward to the day? Are you ready to take steps to reclaim your quality of life? Are you ready to stop the hurt and look for a relationship or job where you are appreciated and respected? Then you've come to the right place. You’ve probably heard the saying:

    "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear."

    The fact that you're searching means you're a ready student. This program can be your teacher. Skeptical? I understand. Bullies are complex. You may wonder what this program has to offer that you haven’t heard before. Let me make it easy for you. I guarantee that the ideas in this program can work. But before I explain the guarantee, let me explain the fee.

    You probably expect a program like this to cost a few hundred dollars. In fact, my presentations on this topic are upwards of $7500 and my consulting fees for three and a half hours of my time costs $1675. But the Take the Bully by the Horns Audio Learning System is only $25.00

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    The Take The Bully By The Horns System includes:

     

        1) 30 days of Action Plans on how to stand up and speak up for yourself when someone is trying to manipulate, intimidate, or control you.  These action plans include thought-provoking insights to help you understand why bullies target certain people and how NOT to be one of those people.  Plus, dozens of "Why didn't I think of that?" responses so the next time a bully says or does something hurtful, you won't be tongue-tied or tongue-twisted

     

          2) A one-hour CD with specific tips on what to do and say when dealing with the 5-10% of the population who don't want a win-win; they want to win

     

            3) A special report on How to Choose Your Battles:  21 Questions to Help you Decide Whether to Speak Up or Put a Sock In it

     

             4) A special report on School Bullies:  What To Do if Your Child is Being Targeted

     

            5) A white paper on The Secret to Saying No When You're Being Pressured to Say Yes (This is crucial as bullies control you by forcing you to give into them - even when you don't want to.)

     

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    Popular jazz singer Collete said:

    "The better your feel about yourself,

    the fewer times you have to knock someone down to feel tall.”

    That’s what bullies do. They knock you down so they feel tall. They belittle you so they can feel big. They put you down with self-esteem sapping digs so they can be on top.

    If you’re sick and tired of this – if you want to feel better about yourself – it’s time to take back control of your life. What I’ve learned from teaching people across the country how to handle bullies -- including presentations for the U.S. Army, Kaiser Permanente, Honolulu Police, Associated General Contractors of America, Fairfax County Schools, and National Organization for Women Legislators – is that you’ve probably tried everything you’ve known to do to make things better and nothing’s worked.

    If you keep doing the same things, bullies will continue to have power over you. If you want to change what’s happening, it’s time to learn new approaches. You need to do things differently. If you don't, you may look back one day and regret that you allowed this person to rob you of your quality of life. You may wish you had taken charge of your circumstances instead of allowing them to continue. You may wonder if you could have avoided all the headache and heartache if you had gotten the right guidance at the right time and acted on it. This is the time

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    Sam Horn

    Founder of Take the Bully by the Horns

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